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Today was officially cancelled

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Today I just couldn’t be arsed. I barely slept a wink last night for some reason (pretty sure it wasn’t the vodka) and woke up to pouring rain and a similar sleep deprived mental state. Kinda reminded me of those early days with a new baby, urggh..

Lying in bed contemplating the effort involved in my usual Tuesday, I made an executive decision.

Fuck it. This particular Tuesday has been officially called off.

No work. No shopping. No cleaning. No agenda. No stress.

The kids, thankfully, seemed to be enjoying a rare moment of getting-along-edness so I simply rolled over, snuggled deeper into the warm bed and dozed off.

I was practically shaken awake at 845am by Albi demanding some form of nutritional sustenance and Grace whining from the safe confines of her bedroom that she didn’t wish to attend school (for no apparent reason).

In my foggy-headed reduced capacity, and understanding the ridiculous rush / yelling / fighting that would be required, I consented to a day off, as long as she made Albi breakfast. I once again dozed peacefully.

Win win all round!

Of course I couldn’t keep the monkeys confined to the house all day for fear of having to mediate the inevitable fights, so at a leisurely 10.30am we mosied into town for Albi’s weekly circus class.

Our moods had improved markedly by the end of the class, assisted by my second strong cup of coffee for the day and some good friend’s smiling faces, and all I felt was lingering tiredness, which was easily sorted out with a quick nanna-nap after lunch while the kids watched a movie.

Fast forward a few hours, after a throw together dinner, I was treated to a head massage from Grace while Albi gave me a (painful) belly massage. (mental note: teach Albi non-ninja massage techniques) Now read into this as you will but I believe they call this gratitude.

All in all, we ended up having a very peaceful, flowing, relaxed kind of day. And we are all happy.

My point to this whole story? Simple:

The world can wait. Your happiness is more important. Your children’s happiness is more important.

In my opinion, there is absolutely no point in pushing yourself to the brink of sanity for the sake of routine, task completion or for the benefit of others. (except, sometimes, for your kids)

Is it not more important that your children see that you place their happiness and health above all else? That teaching them that listening to thier own body, spirit and mind, and responding accordingly, should be their first priority in life?

Well I do think this (rightly or wrongly) and regardless of other opinions, it seems to be working out just fine for us so far. (If anything changes you’ll be sure to hear about it!)

What does it really matter in the long run if they miss a few days of school. Or that project I’m working on is delayed by a day. Or that we have leftovers for dinner, again. Or we have to dig through the unfolded washing to find clean undies. It doesn’t. The world keeps spinning. No point sweating the small stuff.

If my children can wake up and go to sleep with a smile on their face and peace in their heart, then I think we’re doing a pretty good job.

Obviously it doesn’t always work this way, don’t worry, we have our fair share of blow-outs and meltdowns (that’s another article altogether). What is important to me is that those days are fewer than our good ones.

Some days you just need to say “Fuck it” to the world and do what makes you happy.

On that charming note, I shall, for now, bid you adieu. For some reason I feel like snuggling up in bed with G while she falls asleep.

Peace, love and mungbeans to you all ✌

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31 comments

Sarah Scully June 20, 2017 - 10:51 am

Great post Chris Martin, and great insight into listening to your body. So often I find myself running around like a crazy woman because I have said ‘yes’ to this and that, often at the detriment of mine and the boys well-being. I need to listen to my (growing) body more, slow down and learn to say ‘fuck it’ more.

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 11:07 am

Thanks! Totally agree – it’s so hard to say no but so important. Big love to you, the boys and the bump x

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Fiona O'Donnell June 20, 2017 - 10:52 am

Oh man. ….love it ❤❤❤❤

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 11:07 am

Phew! Lol

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Fiona O'Donnell June 20, 2017 - 11:11 am

Hahahaha…resonated beautifully. I don’t mean to be a tough crowd 😉

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 11:12 am

Your not – just having a giggle 😉

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Suzi Qu June 20, 2017 - 11:08 am

Love it ❤️

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 11:09 am

I know you think this most days 😉

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Mel Dee June 20, 2017 - 11:40 am

Cassandra – the world can wait. Your happiness is more important.

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 11:43 am

Your damn right Mel. Cassandra – just say fuck it 🙂

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Mel Dee June 20, 2017 - 11:45 am

Just A Dad it’s more that Cassandra is backing me up on my decision to say fuck it. 😂

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 11:48 am

Well power to you then Mel 🙂

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Anita Coldrey June 20, 2017 - 11:44 am

As always you write honestly from the heart and I agree a day off here and here doesn’t matter one little bit and its great to show the kids that there are times that you need to look after yourself first. Well done you! xo

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 11:49 am

Nice one Neets – always look after yourself first. X

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Jessica Stafford June 20, 2017 - 12:28 pm

Keep em coming Marty, loving the posts!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 12:30 pm

Thanks Jeff x

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Leanne Russell-Clarke June 20, 2017 - 12:33 pm

Highlight- ‘must teach Albi non ninja massage moves’ such a funny visual 🙂

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 9:47 pm

Funny to watch, not so to receive 😉

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Kendra McKindley June 20, 2017 - 1:06 pm

Spot on!!

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Paul Burfitt June 20, 2017 - 7:29 pm

Totally Agree. Love reading your posts. Well done mate.

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Just A Dad June 20, 2017 - 9:47 pm

Thanks for the vote of confidence Paul!

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Mark Drought June 20, 2017 - 8:57 pm

Love this Chris , really well put and given me quite a chuckle on this cold morning

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Gee Luvva June 20, 2017 - 9:35 pm

Spot on!

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Ada Hansch June 20, 2017 - 10:50 pm

Gemma Torney

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Steph Miller June 21, 2017 - 12:58 am

Interesting read and have to agree I lurned this the hard way meny yrs ago I ended up having a body burn out in the end had to limit my self to very little till I recovered thankfully that was over 12 yrs ago now a days I listen to my body and rest when needed and try not to stress over things not getting done and most of all just enjoy those lazy days with the kids

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Just A Dad June 21, 2017 - 1:27 am

Good for you Steph! Burn out is far too common in our society. We are educated to spend more time working than enjoying this life – it’s all backwards!

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Steph Miller June 21, 2017 - 3:17 am

Yea it is sadly my burn out was doing too much at home as I was married to a lazy so and so pretty much I was doing everything including raising the children eventually got fed up and left after a long recovery

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Nicola Anderson June 21, 2017 - 11:16 am

Chris I have had many a day like that and you have put a big smile on my face. Keep doing what you’re doing cos I think you’re doing just great

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Just A Dad June 21, 2017 - 11:17 am

Thanks Nicola! You too x

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Katie McDermott June 27, 2017 - 11:41 am

I don’t agree on the non attendance of school for no reason In particular because in life sometimes you have to turn up when you don’t want to but at the end of the day there is happiness! I don’t need hate on my comment, I was just scrolling through to see if I should click follow

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Just A Dad June 27, 2017 - 12:00 pm

Thanks for taking the time to read through Katie. I agree that sometimes you have to turn up even when you don’t want to. Having kids literally ensures this! I am merely saying that happiness and health should be priority one. For our family on this occasion, that meant breaking a cycle / pattern of increasing negative attitudes and stress. What worked was a low activity day together, a break from routine. I wrote about it here in the hope it may help someone else feel more in control. Thanks for your feedback, I hope you like this page enough to follow along or recommend to any Dad’s out there you may know 🙂

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